About the Author


My name is Melinda, and I live in the capital of Hungary, Budapest.

I don't think it's possible to sum a person up in a few paragraphs, but I'll try my best to give you an idea about who I am and what I do. Or who I think I am and what I think I do anyway. The two are probably very different, aren't they?

I don't like labels, and I don't like to reduce myself or anyone else to one. But I also know that labels help people understand each other more. So let's make things easier: I have anxiety. It just doesn't control my life anymore. If anything, I learned to chase my fears instead of running away. As Pema Chödrön wrote, I'm a coward, but I go ahead and do things anyhow--it's what makes me brave.

I've always had anxiety, ever since I was little. In the middle of the chaos of my childhood, maybe the only thing I felt I could control was myself. Or I thought I could control myself if I tried really really hard. We all know how that ended.

For most of my life, I thought being anxious and worried all the time was just a normal part of me. But in my mid-twenties, the little ground I'd had under my feet crumbled, and I was forced to deal with myself somehow.

So, as J.K. Rowling (whom I love, by the way, and yes, I'm a proud Hufflepuff) has said, rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. In the past years, it became a part of my days to learn and practice living with my own self. To understand my own mind and how it works. And to see the differences between reality and my thoughts.

I think I'm more peaceful and happy now than I ever was. I'm grateful to share this life with my wonderful husband and our animal companions.

Buddhism, psychology and philosophy all helped me understand and command myself better. I cannot leave my mind behind, but I don't want to anymore. Because life might be painful sometimes, but what I realized is that it is our pain on which we build ourselves. Pain, whatever form it may take in our lives, can teach us to understand ourselves better and to understand each other better. To be more peaceful and compassionate.

I've been fascinated by the human psyche ever since I was thirteen, and I have always loved writing. So that is what I do on this blog, in the hopes that what helps me will help you in some way.

We, humans, might be different from each other, but we are also very much the same. What is in me is also in you. Through the art of words, we can recognize that sameness. You are never alone.

So hello, my friend. That untouchable sameness in me greets the same in you. I wish you peace, truly.

Much love,
Melinda